Why are adults bullying at school and in the workplace when we tell our kids not to

                                  

Why is this still happening today? After all of the high school shootings and war.  What is it that makes us need to feel better than others, by talking behind their backs or giving them looks, and playing power games.  I have found the best way to deal in these types of situations is to ignore it, focus on the people who are positive and on what you can contribute.   We do not make ourselves better, stronger people by belittling others. In fact that makes us weak.

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We are role models for our kids, our brothers and sisters.  If we want to make this world a better place, then why is it okay for us to go out and do what we tell our kids not to do.  How about starting today instead of judging someone else because they look or talk different, look for something that can be learned from this person. We all have something we can teach each other.  There are wars going on all over the world, we don’t need to bring them into our homes or work places. No one deserves to be treated that way. If you need to put people down and talk behind their back then you probably should not be talking. 

Not only are you hurting that persons reputation but your judgement is hurting you. If people treat others this way then imagine how they feel inside. Shunning these people is not a good idea because then we are doing the very thing they are doing to others.

Showing them loving kindness and compassion will go a long way.  It does not matter what our religions or beliefs are we can all get along and help each other. We can stop the pain and suffering by starting to take charge of it in our own lives. It all starts with self love. If you love yourself then great, if you do not know what that means that does not mean you do not. It just means that you maybe do not know how you love yourself. We can learn to pay attention to how we treat others by starting with paying attention to how we treat ourselves. 

What types of stories are you repeating over and over again.  If they are negative then you will feel like you need to defend these so called deficiencies that you have named and what happens is, is we can bring down others for us to feel better about us.  You can say wait is this story true, do I actually believe it? There is a lot of pain behind all of us and if we can be strong enough to slowly start facing it, we can make real changes in ourselves and others.

Being in business for yourself can be costly: Another reason to use social media for promotion

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Social media, as we all know you can see what your old high school friends have been up to, keep in touch with family and friends that have moved away, etc. Why not let your friends and family know what business you are in, so that they can support you. There are different levels to how hot a lead is. If you are going to target a group of people right away, which you should, try starting with this primary audience. It is definitely going to be warmer than people you do not know.

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You should know your value and what you have to offer. If you do not there are many great business and personal growth courses you can take to get inspired, including C3 Training, Strategic Coaching and many more.  There is Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Pinterest. All great communication tools to use when sending your message and at no cost! If you are going to start using these means to promote your product or service keep in mind when you make other personal posts on your page. If you are self employed remember you are a representation of your service. So save the group party pics for your private files on your computer.  The more you do this type of advertising the more you will get your name out to the public in hopes that they will share your posts and use your services or recommend them.  

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Very important, if people are promoting you, you should do your best to promote them or at least like what they post from time to time. Unless it seriously conflicts with your values and what you yourself are selling.  The media world we live in only takes a second to send a quick thank you note, or to share something someone has posted.  Remember the law of reciprocity.

Be sure to add everyone you know to your lists of friends and followers, its a good idea to keep your friend lists private if you can, especially if you have competitors on your list. You can post links to articles that relate to your field, offer free valuable advice to show you care and to be helpful. All of these little things can be done to make an impact on your potential clients and building awareness around what you are offering.

Having professional social media pages could be of help down the road if you decide to move into another profession.  A lot of professionals that are hiring, will check applicant’s pages before making a decision.  As well as your own current clients, be prepared that they will be reading your posts as well.

If you keep your posts, clear, positive and informative, you will be doing a great job.

Good Luck!
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3 ways to get clear on your value when self employed

If you are in a career that requires you to make your own schedule and you choose the commission you charge each client, then the amount you charge may vary from client to client depending on what services you offer each. The service industry is complex in the way that each service is tailored to the customer.

When I started out in Real Estate that was probably one of the hardest parts of learning the ropes. Was learning my value and learning how to communicate it. You first need to provide value for your client, which you of course do, secondly you need to know what that value is, and then you need to quantify that amount. Here are some tips to getting clear on these three points.

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1)   Who is your niche market- What makes you different from your competitors? If you are new, being eager to learn and full of energy is a great start. Choosing a niche is a way for you to distinguish yourself from the others in your field. It will give your clients confidence when they learn you specialize in say, working first time home buyers or planning events for non-profit fundraisers. Whichever you choose, it is a good idea to focus on one in particular. This does not mean you cannot do the other jobs, definitely do them, just spend a little more time working on getting new clients in your niche.

2)   What is your value- This is an important one to be clear on, it sets boundaries and expectations right from the beginning?  There are certain things that are part of your job and others that are not. It is never a good idea to make a promise you cannot keep or answer a question you do not know the answer to. Having an elevator speech is a great way to start to think about your value, it is a 30 second informal speech that you create, that basically tells people your name, companies name, what you do for people and how you do it different and maybe a phrase about your background. There are professionals that can help you in creating this speech. You want it to be fun, easy to remember and catchy.  Joining Toastmasters and/or any networking group is the perfect way to improve your public speaking skills and professionalism.

3)  How much do you charge- What are your industry standards? Remember it is better to go up then down; you want to be affordable but not the cheapest person in town.  If you know your niche and know the service you provide is valuable you can start by showing your client a portfolio of some past jobs. Impressing them and creating a need for what you offer. Not too many people mind paying a fair amount, especially if you show all the benefits of working with you first. If you do not have any past jobs to show them, then you can make a mock portfolio of examples, saying this is what it will look like etc. Be clear on the services you provide, no generalizations, there is no room for assumptions. Your results should be measurable.

Asking the client questions about what their expectations are, and getting them to be a part of putting the package of service you will be providing is a great way to individualize their experience. Leave room for changes and let them know that small adjustments can be made along the way. Decide on the best way to communicate and what times work best for them.  Scheduling the next meeting and creating an outline right there on the spot is an efficient way to let them know you are prepared, organized and ready to work!